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Parenting Under Fire

How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant Child

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Teaches parents of children of all ages who are hurt, angry, rejecting, and distant (HARD) how to effectively and empathically communicate through a variety of effective and empathic strategies.

Children who are hurt, angry, rejecting, and distant (HARD) can be challenging to parent. They can be rude, uncooperative, and disagreeable. They are hard to relate to or connect with, and they can appear to be hardened to the love and guidance of their parent. Whether hard children are caught in a loyalty conflict, are victims of parental alienation, or behaving this way for some other reason, their parents need help! Losing or feeling like you are about to lose a relationship with a beloved child, regardless of the cause, is one of the most painful scenarios a parent will ever experience. Such parents feel under fire! How to handle such children before relationships are further damaged is a question many parents have. Should the parent pick their battles or put their foot down? Should they pursue the child or let the child come to them?

This book provides parents of a hurt, angry, rejecting distant child the much needed guidance and support they need to connect with through to their children and repair relationships while opening the lines of communication.The book is divided into three sections, each focusing on a different form of communication. In the first section, the focus is on in-person communication and interactions, the second teaches parents the whys and hows of communicating via messages, and the final portion walks parents through the principles and mechanics of writing letters to an older hurt, angry, rejecting, distant child in an effort to bridge gaps and repair wounds. This book provides the reader with the science-based hope and inspiration they need as well as hundreds of practical suggestions about how to keep the communication loving, appropriate, and connected.

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      July 28, 2023
      This fourth collaboration by Baker and Fine (Restoring Family Connections, 2020) offers strategies to alleviate various forms of conflict that develop between a parent and child. The book is organized by approach and degree: Part I examines cases in which the parent has regular contact with the child, Part II is for connecting with older children primarily over text, and Part III is dedicated to those hoping to reconcile with teenage or adult children whose contact has become nonexistent. The authors propose that the parent is responsible for resolving any differences, and the divisiveness or estrangement reflects a child's unfulfilled needs. They instruct parents to maintain a positive demeanor, avoid placing expectations on results, and persevere despite rejection. The dynamics of competition and rancor between divorced parents are heavily emphasized and direct much of the book's therapeutic objectives. Comprehensive examples are given spanning from the creative to the obvious. Parents who choose to follow Baker and Fine's guidance must sift through some elaborate scenarios and overly scripted dialogs to extract practical advice for salvaging estranged relationships.

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